How to Use Lists to Design Your Next Chapter
Life moves fast. One day, you’re setting New Year’s resolutions with enthusiasm, and the next, you’re wondering where the time went—and why you feel so overwhelmed. That’s exactly what happened to me this January. Despite being someone who thrives on structure and planning, I found myself exhausted, scattered, and questioning my direction.
The solution? Not more rigid planning but a flexible, intentional system of lists that honor both dreams and reality. These lists have become my secret weapon for designing my next chapter with clarity, confidence, and joy. And today, I’m sharing how you can create your own.
Lists aren’t just about checking off tasks. When used intentionally, they can reduce mental clutter by getting thoughts out of your head and onto paper. They can also create focus by helping you prioritize what truly matters. It helps you celebrate progress by reminding you of how far you’ve come. They are also inspiring action by breaking big dreams into manageable steps. The key is to use the right kinds of lists, not just to-do lists, but lists that align with your values, aspirations, and well-being.
The 3 Lists That Changed Everything
1. The "Sky Not the Limit" List
It is a judgment-free zone for your wildest dreams and aspirations. This list isn’t about deadlines or feasibility—it’s about possibility. Think of it as a brain dump for your biggest, boldest ideas. It removes the pressure of “how” or “when” and allows you to dream freely. These dreams can later inspire more concrete goals—or simply serve as a reminder of what excites you. To start, grab a notebook and write down anything that comes to mind—no matter how big, small, or far-fetched. The only rule? No limits. Some of the examples from my list includes: Live in New York for a year, Hike Kilimanjaro, Speak Portuguese fluently, Give a TEDx talk…
2. The "40 Before 40" List (or "Next Chapter" List)
It is a curated list of goals you’d like to achieve in the next few years. Unlike the "Sky’s the Limit" list, this one is more structured and intentional. It’s about setting milestones that excite and inspire you—without overwhelming you. It gives you a sense of direction and purpose. By focusing on a specific timeframe (e.g., the next 2–5 years), you can break down big dreams into actionable steps. Start by reflecting on what you’d like to experience, achieve, or learn in the next few years. Then, aim for a mix of health, career, adventure, and personal growth goals. Start with 10–15 items, and let the list evolve over time. Examples from my list include: Run a marathon, See the Northern Lights, Read a book in German, Take a wellness retreat…
3. The Reverse Bucket List
It is a list of things you’ve already accomplished—big or small—that you’re proud of. This list is all about celebrating your progress and recognizing how far you’ve come. It works because we often focus so much on what’s next that we forget to acknowledge what we’ve already achieved. A reverse bucket list shifts your mindset from “I’m not there yet” to “Look how much I’ve done!”. To start, set a timer for 10 minutes and write down as many accomplishments as you can think of. Include everything from major milestones to small wins. You’ll be surprised by how much you’ve achieved! Examples from my list: Lived abroad, Became bilingual, Earned my bachelor’s degree, Finished a half-marathon, Treated my parents to a Michelin-starred meal….
How to Use These Lists in Your Daily Life
Step 1 | Empty Your Mind: Start by dumping all your thoughts, dreams, and to-dos onto paper. This clears mental space and helps you see what’s truly important.
Step 2 | Organize with Intention: Sort your ideas into the three lists by dreams and aspirations, goals for the next few years, and past accomplishments.
Step 3 | Break It Down: Take one or two items from your "Next Chapter" list and break them into smaller, actionable steps. For example, if your goal is to run a half-marathon, your steps might include:
Step 4 | Celebrate Progress: Regularly update your Reverse Bucket List and celebrate your wins—no matter how small. This keeps you motivated and reminds you of your growth.
Step 5 | Stay Flexible: Life happens, and that’s okay! Your lists should evolve with you. Revisit them every few months to add, remove, or adjust as needed.
Why This System Works
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that lists should serve you, not the other way around. There will be days (or weeks) when you don’t check anything off, and that’s fine. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s progress and intentionality. For example, some days my only “achievement” is walking my dog or enjoying a quiet evening with a book. Other days, I might tackle a big project or cross something major off my list. Both are valid.
This three-list system has transformed how I approach my goals and my life. Here’s why:
Less Overwhelm: By separating dreams, goals, and accomplishments, I can focus on what matters most right now.
More Joy: Celebrating past wins and future possibilities keeps me motivated and positive.
Greater Clarity: I know exactly what I’m working toward and why.
Flexibility: Life changes, and so can my lists. There’s no guilt if something doesn’t happen as planned.
Your Turn: Design Your Next Chapter
Designing your next chapter isn’t about rigid planning or checking off boxes. It’s about creating a life that aligns with your values, dreams, and well-being. These lists are tools to help you do just that—with clarity, confidence, and a whole lot of joy. So grab a notebook, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and start designing your next chapter today. You’ve got this! Here’s your action plan:
Create your "Sky’s the Limit" list. Dream big—no limits!
Draft your "Next Chapter" list. What do you want to achieve in the next few years?
Start your Reverse Bucket List. Celebrate how far you’ve come.
Break down 1–2 goals into actionable steps.
Revisit your lists every few months to adjust and celebrate.
I’d love to hear from you! Which list are you most excited to create? Share your #1 dream or accomplishment in the comments below or tag a friend who needs this reminder. 💛
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